My 6 year old son, A,
has been struggling with the transition from Kindergarten to First grade. He
feels that the day is too long and he doesn’t like his family being separated
for that many hours. At 40 days into the school year, he had cried everyday
before school all of those days except for two. Every morning for the last few
weeks, he wakes my up to tell me that he is feeling sick, that I should take
his temperature and that it would be a good idea for me to keep him home. The
fear and anxiety he is experiencing overwhelms him and he is allowing his
thoughts to spiral to the worst conclusion in this situation. When he looks at
all of it as a whole he is overwhelmed, instead of trusting God in the steps to
get through, he gets paralyzed.
Have you ever been so
anxious or worried about a situation in your life that your thoughts spiral out
of control? The fear of the unknown is a real struggle in our lives, for some
of us, it appears in our daily lives. It can happen when new job opportunities
come our way, when we move states, when a confrontation needs to take place or
when a line in the sand needs to be drawn in friendship or marriage. We have a
tendency to associate past feelings and experiences to future situations and we
can instantly draw inaccurate conclusions before the event even takes place.
Letting our past feelings control our current thoughts can stop us from taking
steps of faith. Feelings and emotions are not terrible, in fact they are from
God; but when we let our feelings govern our mind and overwhelm our thoughts,
this is where trouble arises.
When it comes to A, we have
had many talks with him, spent time in prayer with him, had playdates to have
him build relationships in class, spoken to a counselor, etc. What we have had
to do is just take small steps forward, everyday, to get him through the school
day. We allow him to feel his emotion and express himself, but we also spend
time assuring him about the positive that can come from him trusting God and
staying with it. We are trusting that over time, as he remains on course, he
will adjust to his new normal.
Fear can make you want
to change courses; it can cause your fight or flight response to take over. Do
you stay stagnant in the fear of the unknown in your life, afraid to move in
any one direction? Experiencing fear every now and then is a normal part of
life, but living with chronic fear can be both physically and emotionally draining.
My son started to make himself ill by the fear, allowing it to rob the joy out
of all other activities.
Some of us may not want
what is in our lives right now, but we can trust in a sovereign God who wants
to use all things for His Glory. No one signs up for suffering or pain, but in
order to learn and grow we must stay on course. As hard as it is, I tend to learn
the most when I'm hurting the deepest. So many of us, including myself, want
the quick fix, but unfortunately in most cases, it cannot be fixed without help.
What I have learned from my experiences is that we don't have to go through any
of our struggles alone. God is true to His promises and will walk beside us on
our journeys of mountain tops and deserts. In the desert places of our lives we
start to think that God is not paying attention, but I have experienced first
hand that God works in the silence; He is busy crafting the puzzle pieces of my
life into His masterpiece. If I abort a dry season of my life too soon, rush to
be out of my current situation and run from my fears, I will miss the blessing
and the teaching that is awaiting me. In the unsettled places of our lives, God
can lead and position us for the challenges to come.
As time moves forward and
we keep taking steps in faith, God will show up. He will provide
people in your life that will stand in the gap with you as you walk this
journey of yours. You may be the parent that is walking through a tough time
with your child or a wife walking through a transition with your husband,
whatever it is, find the people who will walk alongside you with accountability
and encouragement to get you through. Being there everyday to walk this
journey with my son has helped him to get to where he is today. As of this
week, my son went five days straight to school without crying. Praise God for
answered prayers!!! He got anxious on day 3 this week, but he reminded himself
that he could do it. He prayed and used his faith in God to get through the
hours of school because his previous steps of faith had proven it true already.
God is our deliverer; He
delivers us in the hard moments when it feels like we cannot move or breathe
from the fear of the unknown. Victories in our lives don’t come when we turn
and run. What we learn through our trials will equip us for our future experiences.
Stay on course, stay in the fight, God will give enough strength for the trials
of each day.
Psalm 91:5-8. The Message translation
is: “Fear nothing—not wild wolves in the night, not flying arrows in the
day, not disease that prowls through the darkness, not disaster that erupts at
high noon, even though others succumb all around, drop like flies right and
left, no harm will even graze you. You’ll stand untouched, watch
it all from a distance, watch the wicked turn into corpses.”
Love this
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Thank you for sharing ❤️
Amen! It is all a walk through faith. Thanks for reading:)
DeleteWow I'm amazed at A's fortitude and perseverance. I didn't come to Christ until later in life and I know A will greatly benefit from having such strong faith carry him through dark & challenging times. You & your hubby should be proud of the faith walk you travel on with your children. In life there are few things more crippling than fear. Fear is irrational and our response (or lack thereof) is emotional. One way to counter something irrational is to use rationale and reason; and that is good for only as long as you hold onto those thoughts. It's a temporary fix because inevitable the fear overtakes us. Faith in God Almighty, belief in a power greater than us, greater than anything that has a grip on us, is the ONLY way to banish and overcome fear. For me, it sometimes take repeating "God is with me, He protects me with a hedge of thorns" as a mantra before I finally calm down and then actually hear & believe the words I'm saying. Your son A is a blessed child to learn to rely on God so early in life. And I am fortunate to have your thoughts and words to remind me that fear is real and it's not only in my life, but God is great and faith overcomes all. xo
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